based in Spokane, online across Washington
Therapy for People-Pleasing and Boundaries
Are you having trouble saying no?
exhausted always putting yourself last?
Do you consider yourself “the fixer”?
Sound familiar?
I see how saying yes kept you safe.
Life has been centered around taking care of others — putting their needs first, always. And when that doesn't happen, a wave of guilt shows up, as if caring for oneself is somehow wrong or selfish. There’s a certain comfort in people-pleasing; it brings a quick sense of connection or approval. But beneath that, there's often a quiet sense of feeling lost — unsure of identity outside of who others need or expect. Boundaries start to blur, and it can feel like someone is always stepping just a little too far, leaving the body tense, alert, and unsettled.
Blurred
Life has been centered around taking care of others — putting their needs first, always. And when that doesn't happen, a wave of guilt shows up, as if caring for oneself is somehow wrong or selfish. There’s a certain comfort in people-pleasing; it brings a quick sense of connection or approval. But beneath that, there's often a quiet sense of feeling lost — unsure of identity outside of who others need or expect. Boundaries start to blur, and it can feel like someone is always stepping just a little too far, leaving the body tense, alert, and unsettled.
pressure
A request comes in — stay late at work, help a friend move, bake cookies for the school — and the answer is “yes” almost automatically. Even when there are other plans, when the body is exhausted, when stress is already running high. There’s a pull to say yes, not out of desire, but out of habit… maybe even fear. Fear of letting someone down. Fear of being seen as selfish or difficult. It’s easy to fall into a rhythm of meeting everyone else’s needs, while quietly neglecting your own. Over time, life starts to feel more like a response to others' expectations than a reflection of your own values.
strength
Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s powerful. You’ll get clear on who you are, stop shrinking yourself to keep the peace, and finally ditch the guilt for saying no. No more apologizing for just existing. You’ll start showing up in your relationships with confidence, not compromising yourself.
Tired of Living for Others? It’s Time to Finally Put Yourself First.
Therapy helps you...
01
Heal and transform relationship patterns.
02
Say no without guilt.
03
Put yourself first.
04
Speak up without shrinking or apologizing.
